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  1. charismaloy
    October 2, 2014 @ 8:16 pm

    Bio 2 is more YA friendly, but the editor in me insists that you insert the missing “to” before “two” in the last paragraph.

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      October 6, 2014 @ 5:38 am

      Perfect thank you and I fixed it 🙂 This is why I always get help.

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  2. Stephanie Beavers
    October 2, 2014 @ 10:31 pm

    The second one, DEFINITELY! The first one struck me as kinda awkward. The second one was all awesome.

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  3. heathermama
    October 2, 2014 @ 11:06 pm

    like the second one best. 🙂

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  4. Middlemay Farm
    October 3, 2014 @ 6:23 am

    I like the second one better. I didn’t know you had foster kids… How did you get into that? We have 5 kids but are thinking of adopting. Fostering seems so heartbreaking–it takes a special person.

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      October 6, 2014 @ 5:47 am

      Thank you. Actually I’m a house parent manager at a group home- but that’s a mouthful, and since it is a family style group home and I take one weekend off a month it’s like professional foster care, with staff to help. I was homeschooling my kids and needed money, and there was an add in the paper for weekend relief staff so I could work while hubby was home and eight years later I’m still here.
      It can be heart breaking, I’m a lot more cynical now then when I started. Are you wanting to adopt babies or older kids? Just remember these are not “just children” they are broken damaged children who need a lot of care, routine, and attention. My suggestion is make sure yours are older, at least over ten, then adopt younger. Also insist on a long ‘courtship’ for lack of a better word. They love to get these kids into homes as quickly as possible. You need to see these kids have a fit and lose their temper first. You need to see exactly what you’re getting into.
      I know this sounds bad, but when I first started doing this my kids had a rough time, they live in an apartment next to my group-home, and they would see me getting cussed out, lied to, kids running away, being physically attacked. So that is why I suggest proceeding with caution. Adoption can be amazing, but it can also be really difficult. If you want I’m happy to talk to you about this more 🙂

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      • Middlemay Farm
        October 6, 2014 @ 5:54 am

        Thanks for that! I may want to ask a few (a bunch) more questions. 🙂 Three of our kids are out of the house and the two youngest are 13 and 16. I agree that we could only really do a little younger.

        I really admire your honesty. We have friends who used to foster and the wife got attacked a few times. I’m not sure what I’d do in that situation. We were thinking of (maybe) a siblings group because at least they would have each other–but that comes with a host of problems, I’m sure. Have you ever wanted to take one of the kids home–I mean have you ever really connected to one of them? Or is it more set up so it just feels like a job.

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        • alicamckennajohnson
          October 6, 2014 @ 1:12 pm

          Yes, there have been several kids I have wanted to keep forever, kids who I cried over once they left, and a few I cried about even though I couldn’t help them and they needed to go to a higher level group home. And then their were ones that got happy dance when they left.
          They should disclose everything about the child/children to you and your husband. Siblings groups can great, they can also be a lot harder to help learn new habits because they see each other and get right back into the same old patterns. They can be horrid teenagers, ADD meds don’t work with hormones, their issues come up in weird ways, many kids have been ‘given back’ at this time. NOW, those parents sucked big time, but be prepared for turbulent years. Of course you live on a farm so they can go walk around for a while and chillax without too much worry 🙂
          There are kids in the system who aren’t as broken, who were loved on by someone in their early years, whose basic disposition gives them the strength to be okay through it all, they are rare little gems 🙂

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  5. Kim
    October 3, 2014 @ 7:18 am

    Agreed. I like number 2.

    For the record, you forgot to mention your biological kids in number 1.

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  6. alyson108
    October 5, 2014 @ 10:03 am

    I like number 2 best! Also, I agree with charismaloy: yes, please put in that “to.” Humorously, I read it so fast that I missed the spelling all together and read “is mom to personal kids,” so my editing comment was going to be to ask you to include the number of person children! I need to edit my eyeballs, haha!

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  7. Julie Glover
    October 6, 2014 @ 5:53 am

    #2! Well-done. 🙂

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  8. Coleen Patrick
    October 6, 2014 @ 10:03 am

    I like number 2, also! 🙂

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  9. Elizabeth Anne Mitchell
    October 7, 2014 @ 1:49 am

    Yep, #2. I’m a bit late to the game, but I like how you lead with the problems you had that would make someone think you couldn’t be a writer.

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