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  1. Ryan King
    January 21, 2013 @ 6:10 am

    That certainly would take the term “life coach” to a whole other level.

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  2. jolenenavarro
    January 21, 2013 @ 9:18 am

    Oh I think we lie to ourselves everyday. It is called justifacation and the best way to end a friendship is total honesty. hehe. A little truth with a lot of love would be good.

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 23, 2013 @ 3:42 pm

      True truth that is balanced with love and compassion can be too much to take. Thanks Jolene

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  3. Janet Givens
    January 21, 2013 @ 12:47 pm

    So many ideas to chew on in this post, Alicia. Thanks. The idea of a “professional life critique expert,” is an amusing one. I think of how easy it would be to find one: just walk into any Codependents Anonymous Meeting and there they sit, eager to be helpful. (I say that with much love for all the recovering codependents in my life today).

    Becoming aware of what we need, want, yearn for, deserve … is so important. And how hard that is, often. I try to sit still at least once each day and listen to what bubbles up; even then, I must decide if what I’m hearing is my own voice or that of my long-gone grandmother continuing to give me unasked for advice. Which brings me to the other thought I had: how closely connected we seem to make caring and “advising.” I’ve come to believe that whenever I give unsolicited advice I am saying that “you won’t figure it out for yourself.” That helps to shut me up (usually). Does that make sense?

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 23, 2013 @ 3:44 pm

      LOL- I think I’ll steer clear of those meetings it would be too tempting to let them take over 🙂 I love the idea of taking time each day and seeing what comes up and then deciding who is speaking. Thanks Janet

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  4. heathermama
    January 22, 2013 @ 9:31 am

    i think i am great at critiquing my own life… just not very good at implementing the things i know i need to change. LOL

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 23, 2013 @ 3:47 pm

      Implementing is a huge challenge, but I know there are times when I am way to hard on myself and having someone else near by to help see things in a more balanced light would be great.

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  5. Gilliad Stern
    January 22, 2013 @ 1:18 pm

    I agree with you. I critique myself a lot harder then I do the people I know, but I am also one of the worst people to implement the changes I need in place. I need to become more disciplined!

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  6. Bill Jones, Jr.
    January 24, 2013 @ 5:19 pm

    I am allergic to other peoples’ opinions. I’m not a fan of criticism, but compliments creep me out completely. What I don’t get is why people come to me for opinions on everything. Sheesh.

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