1. heathermama
    March 14, 2012 @ 5:26 am

    every single time i use my debit card i worry it will not be accepted. no matter how much money i know i have in the account, i freak out inside. i feel myself get red, my palms get sweaty, and sometimes i feel really sick to my stomach. bleck


    • alicamckennajohnson
      March 14, 2012 @ 2:19 pm

      It’s crazy isn’t it. I try and breath and remind myself that the money is there- but after someone stole my card info I feel like it just might not be any since the last time I checked.


  2. Kilian Metcalf
    March 14, 2012 @ 5:31 am

    I got your back, Alica!


  3. Bill Jones, Jr.
    March 14, 2012 @ 12:16 pm

    The only thing I think you can do is be aware of all the times the situation arises, and everything turns out okay. When you check the account, and everything is cool, make a mental note of it. Hopefully, in time, the positive reinforcement will replace the negative trauma. But it does take time, and sometimes you go backwards. Just be gentle with yourself.


    • alicamckennajohnson
      March 14, 2012 @ 2:20 pm

      Great advice Bill- and being gentle with myself is definitely something I need to work on!


  4. Patricia Yager Delagrange
    March 14, 2012 @ 4:00 pm

    I have/had what is called “anticipatory anxiety” which I have been dealing with for years. I’m much better now, but essentially I get stressed out over the unknown of the future – which of course I can’t control the future ANYWAY – so I’ve learned to try to live in the present. I don’t ignore the future. It’s always there looming ahead of me; but I am learning not to get freaked out by it. I used to (and sometimes still do) obsess about something that’s coming up and make myself sick over it. Bad for my physical being and bad for my emotional well-being. It’s a struggle but I’m so much better that I’m happy over the success I’ve had so far.


    • alicamckennajohnson
      March 15, 2012 @ 12:59 pm

      Patti I freak out over stuff coming up all the time! Some days my mind is what if hell. One thing I have learned is it’s scarier wondering what will happen then actually doing it, so now when I feel like that I make myself take steps to dealing with whatever it is. Not so much living in the present but making the future happen sooner LOL! Most of my stuff revolves around money or my kids.
      I’m glad you’ve found a way to stay focused on the here and now, congratulations on your success!


  5. Rhonda Hopkins
    March 14, 2012 @ 6:50 pm

    OMG…I do exactly the same thing that Heather does with the debit card. Even though I know there’s enough money in there, I’m always afraid it’ll be rejected – almost to the point of hyperventilating. I wonder why that is? I also stress myself about events. I’m pretty shy. Much better than I use to be, but it’s still a big issue for me. I worry myself sick over whether I’ll be dressed appropriately, whether I’ll find anyone to talk to, whether I’ll make a fool of myself, etc. I hope you reach your dreams of making enough money with your writing that you don’t have to worry about money again!


    • alicamckennajohnson
      March 15, 2012 @ 1:03 pm

      Debit card fear is a big one I prefer to work with cash. Of course when I go into the bank to get the cash it’s just as bad LOL- but the shopping is nicer 🙂 I also spend less when I have cash- it’s more real then the card.
      You need a party buddy to go with you, maybe that would help? I’m not shy, but I do worry if I’ll be able to edit what I say properly- foot in mouth happens a lot around me.

      Thanks Rhonda!


  6. Kecia Adams
    March 15, 2012 @ 12:34 pm

    Hi Alica, I can certainly understand stress over money issues. Can’t we all! The advice to take a deep breath and create a new reality is good–but sometimes a real struggle. Our minds love to dwell like misers on those traumatic events. Several years ago my daughter and I were crossing the street (in the crosswalk!) when we were hit by a motorcycle. Broke my collarbone, but fortunately my daughter was OK, just shaken up. But I still have trouble crossing the street. My head is on this constant swivel when I step off the curb. Good thing I don’t live in a city, I would have given myself whiplash by now. 🙂 Thanks for sharing. I think it helps to know that we’re not the only ones going through anxiety.


    • alicamckennajohnson
      March 15, 2012 @ 1:05 pm

      How awful! I’m glad you’re okay now, but O think I would be scared around cross walks too. As I teen I got into a car accident and I’m still a very nervous passenger, and drive cautiously enough that other people go a bit crazy riding with me.
      You’re not alone anxiety seems to be the norm instead of the exception!


  7. August McLaughlin
    March 16, 2012 @ 12:13 am

    I’ve found therapy, pursuing relationships and a career I adore and learning to sleep well extremely helpful in combatting stress, anxiety and panic. Your anxiety about money is so common, Alica. Thanks for giving it a voice! I hope you find ample respite soon and that your peace stays, regardless of what’s in your back account. 😉


    • alicamckennajohnson
      March 16, 2012 @ 1:02 pm

      Sleeping well is huge and one of the ones I have difficulty with. But when I sleep well, eat well, and exercise I am definitely much more able to handle what comes my way. Thanks August, I’m working towards peace 🙂


  8. Freeda Maushardt
    November 14, 2012 @ 8:58 am

    PTSD really takes some time to heal and a good family support is also needed. :

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