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  1. elainecharton
    January 2, 2012 @ 5:47 am

    I think we all need to remember to be our own best friends. 🙂

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  2. Susan Kaye Quinn
    January 2, 2012 @ 3:39 pm

    I love the idea of treating yourself gently, like a treasured friend! Go you! 🙂

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  3. Julie Glover
    January 2, 2012 @ 4:10 pm

    What a great way to look at it! Best wishes for a wonderful new year.

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  4. Jillian Dodd - Glitter, Bliss and Perfect Chaos
    January 2, 2012 @ 4:42 pm

    I’m not a person that does New Year’s resolutions, but I like this one. I think I’ll be my own best friend this year too! Great post!!

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 2, 2012 @ 9:35 pm

      I think it’s a great resolution- how much could we get done if we actually supported ourselves in stead of trash talking? Keep me posted!

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  5. Patricia Yager Delagrange
    January 2, 2012 @ 5:10 pm

    Lovely video, Alica. Thank you. AND man did you write a GREAT blog today. I don’t remember when I had this same discussion but it was sometime in the last few years with my sister, maybe, and we were talking about how we treat “others” nicer than we treat ourselves and how that doesn’t make any sense at all! You hit the nail on the proverbial head with this post and it was a great kick in the arse for me today! I haven’t been feeling too well lately because I’m allowing the holiday stress and dealing with my teenage son “get to me” and I feel sick every single day. So, I have to be my own very, very best buddy and say to myself what I’d say to my best friend if this were happening to her. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this beautiful post, Alica.
    And, hey, as one virtual friend to another, you’re a kind and good soul, Alica. Be kind and good to yourself.
    Patti

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 2, 2012 @ 9:39 pm

      *hugs* Life can easily get overwhelming and for whatever reason it seems to make us treat ourselves worse then normal. Be kind, take care of yourself, and things will get better. I’m sorry you’re feeling so poorly know that I’m thinking of you and wishing you well. And teenagers- well they can really suck, but give him time I’m sure he’ll grow out of it. Your a great mom and have given him a strong foundation, he’ll come back to it 🙂
      I hope my post helps you – you deserve the best especially from yourself!

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  6. Angela Wallace
    January 2, 2012 @ 5:54 pm

    This is a fabulous post, Alica! You’re so right, we never treat ourselves the way we treat our best friends. I like your #5 of what you’ll write down when you’re tempted. When I went off wheat and gluten back in August, I recited much the same when I was tempted, and I also told myself over and over “I don’t need it.” Good luck because you are so worth it!

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 2, 2012 @ 9:40 pm

      Thank you Angela! Staying focus can be hard, that’s what the writing does it helps keep me focused on what I really want instead of numbing to life.

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  7. Sonia G Medeiros
    January 2, 2012 @ 6:15 pm

    Absolutely beautiful post! We definitely need to be our own best friend. I think we’re often our own best frenemy. LOL. We unleash our inner mean girl all over ourselves. Ugh. No more! 😀

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 2, 2012 @ 9:41 pm

      YES! I totally mean girl myself all the time- why? How did I learn that behavior? It’s definitely something I want to change.

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  8. Jolyse Barnett
    January 2, 2012 @ 7:20 pm

    Hi Alica,

    Tears came to my eyes as I read your post today. You are very brave. Years ago, I was my own worst enemy. The negative self-talk led to severe depression. I didn’t feel in control of my emotions or life.

    Acknowledging a bad habit (whatever it may be) and what emotional damage it incurs is the first step to vanquishing it. When you make a mistake or make a wrong choice in a moment of weakness, say, “Well, that was a stupid thing to do. I’ll try not to do that again. Instead, I’ll ____.” Separate the action from your self-esteem, just like you would do with a child/friend.

    I’ve accomplished so much in my personal life these past few years because I’ve changed my outlook. I no longer look to others to make me happy; I do little things for me each day (hence the Margarita Moments and Other Escapes blog…) because I deserve it.

    You deserve health, happiness, and success. This is your year to turn the negative into positive. I’m right here beside you, rooting us all on the whole way!! 🙂

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 2, 2012 @ 9:43 pm

      Thank you Jolyse! That’s exactly how I feel emotionally out of control, and the negative self talk make a vicious spiral!
      For me it’s all about remembering to take the time to learn a new positive habit- now whenever I see your blog it’ll remind me to have fun and treat myself to the good things in life!
      Thank you for you’re support it means so much. I’ll have to update every now and then- hopefully with how well I’m doing. 🙂

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  9. Lesann
    January 3, 2012 @ 8:37 pm

    This is such a great idea! We almost never give ourselves permission to be good to us. Why? Because we’re always so busy seeing to the needs of others. We’re socialized that way…just try stopping and the wave will crash!

    The good news is, you ARE worth it. And so am I. And so it every other woman (or man) who does too much, takes on too much, and still has to figure out a way to make it all happen. Nothing lasts forever, so it’s all got a shelf-life and a time-stamp. Wait out the blues. Outlast the grumpies. Kick that bad attitude to the curb.

    Eat a chocolate. It really helps. ; )

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    • alicamckennajohnson
      January 4, 2012 @ 11:44 pm

      We are worth it! This is my goal for the new year to be kind and generous to myself. Chocolate will definitely be involved.

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